CHAPTER: Regarding good interactions with people.
Narrated Aishah, Ummul Muminin: When the Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم was informed of anything of a certain man, he would not say: What is the matter with so and so that he says? But he would say: What is the matter with the people that they say such and such?
Narrated Anas ibn Malik: A man who had the mark of yellowness on him came to the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم. The Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم rarely mentioned anything of a man which he disliked before him. When he went out, he said: Would that you asked him to wash it from him. Abu Dawud said: Salam is not 'Alawi (from the descendants of Ali). He used to foretell events by stars. He bore witness before Abi bin Arafat to the visibility of moon, but he did not accept his witness.
Narrated Abu Salamah ; Abu Hurairah: The Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: The believer is simple and generous, but the profligate is deceitful and ignoble.
Aishah said: A man asked permission to see the Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم, and he said: He is a bad son of the tribe, or: He is a bad member of the tribe. He then said: Give him permission. Then when he entered, he spoke to him leniently. Aishah asked: Messenger of Allah! You spoke to him leniently while you said about him what you said! He replied: The one who will have the worst position in Allah’s estimation on the day of resurrection will be the one whom people left alone for fear of his ribaldry.
Narrated Aishah, Ummul Muminin: A man asked permission to see the Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم, and the Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: He is a bad member of the tribe. When he entered, the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم treated in a frank and friendly way and spoke to him. When he departed, I said: Messenger of Allah! When he asked permission, you said: He is a bad member of the tribe, but when he entered, you treated him in a frank and friendly way. The Messenger of Allah replied: Aishah! Allah does not like the one who is unseemly and lewd in his language.
The tradition mentioned above has been transmitted by Aishah through a different chain of narrators. This version has: The Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: Aishah! There are some bad people who are respected for fear of their tongues.
Narrated Anas ibn Malik: I never said that when any man brought his mouth to the ear of the Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم and he withdrew his head until the man himself withdrew his head, and I never saw that when any man took him by his hand and he withdrew his hand, until the man himself withdrew his hand.